So there are a lot of Farewell recently, i have just finished another post about Farewell myself. But thank God, there are a lot of people who give strength and meaningful words to help seize the day.
I personally have this favorite twitter channel called "Late Night with Zhou", belong to @chris_zhou which can give something to be learned, to make you stronger and to straighten your mind.
Below are two of my favorite Episodes of Late Night with Zhou
Late Night with Zhou: Move On
people hate to think about the present so much that they cling to the past or the future, to give them something to believe in.
eventually, people find reasons. lots and lots of reasons to believe that things are okay. to justify the hope they persistently hold on to.
this is why we find it hard to move on: we can't live in the present. we can't accept. we make up imaginary scenarios where things are okay.
but thinking 'I can still do something about it! this goodbye is nothing!' while ignoring to logically assess the situation... it's wrong.
second of all, who are you to determine so clearly that you can change the situation? you can try, but that's about it, no?
I'm not saying you have to move on. I'm just reminding you that we *can* move on, should we want to do so. there will be more things ahead.
first, stop living in the past or the future. stop thinking of what 'was' or 'will be'--one already happened, the other is imaginary.
second, accept the present for what it is. if you can't, then find out why, and get busy solving that instead. it'll take time, yes.
so, should you move on? you've got the answer to that, not me..
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Late Night with Zhou: When to Disappear
we all change--you change, I change. what could be the reason for you to care might now be the reason you hate. that's how it is.
you can try. in fact, you'll probably have already tried countless times. that's what we all do: we hold on, because we believe.
but there will come one point where you'll start asking yourself some questions. and, trust me, you will waver if it's a one-sided thing.
the hardest thing to admit to yourself would perhaps be the fact that you are no longer needed in their lives. you don't matter anymore.
the actors and actresses in your life will change over time. the people who need you, and the people you need, will also change.
this is how relationships go. this is how life goes. overstaying your welcome is what's actually hurting you, in all honesty.
we'd like to think we are important for everyone--and that isn't wrong. what's wrong is actually insisting that we are, because we're not.
some people will always be important to you, and you'll also be important to these very people. but this doesn't happen all the time.
there will be people who will throw you away like trash after they're done with you. there will be people who still hang on you, even by the thinnest thread.
so we return to the question: why pull back? because we cannot deny that most of us are flighty creatures who cannot love unconditionally.
does it feel selfish to you? how about this: by pulling back, you're doing them a favor as well. now they don't have to fake interest, no?
if you insist on staying, even though it's painfully clear that there's no longer any point, all that awaits you is a restraining order.
and of course there's always that question haunting us: "What if things get better? What if by staying, I could change things?"
even if everything is taken away from you, hold your breath a bit and let go. you don't own anything in the first place. you MAKE them.
whether things do get any better or not, that has little to do with you. you were once a factor, now a smaller factor--still, only a factor.
If you really worth the attention, you'll get it! Not because you desperately want that attention.
I tell you this: we deserve the things we allow happen to us. we deserve the friends who treat us like crap when we let them do it.
but frankly, and this is what I believe in, to find a place where you can stay for a long time is hard as hell. seriously.
in fact, it's so hard to find a place like that we often deceive ourselves that some other places are where we belong, even if we don't.
appearing and disappearing are both normal, common things that happen in life. realize, accept, and understand it. you'll be fine.
or at last, time will someday heal..
you can try. in fact, you'll probably have already tried countless times. that's what we all do: we hold on, because we believe.
but there will come one point where you'll start asking yourself some questions. and, trust me, you will waver if it's a one-sided thing.
the hardest thing to admit to yourself would perhaps be the fact that you are no longer needed in their lives. you don't matter anymore.
the actors and actresses in your life will change over time. the people who need you, and the people you need, will also change.
this is how relationships go. this is how life goes. overstaying your welcome is what's actually hurting you, in all honesty.
we'd like to think we are important for everyone--and that isn't wrong. what's wrong is actually insisting that we are, because we're not.
some people will always be important to you, and you'll also be important to these very people. but this doesn't happen all the time.
there will be people who will throw you away like trash after they're done with you. there will be people who still hang on you, even by the thinnest thread.
so we return to the question: why pull back? because we cannot deny that most of us are flighty creatures who cannot love unconditionally.
does it feel selfish to you? how about this: by pulling back, you're doing them a favor as well. now they don't have to fake interest, no?
if you insist on staying, even though it's painfully clear that there's no longer any point, all that awaits you is a restraining order.
and of course there's always that question haunting us: "What if things get better? What if by staying, I could change things?"
even if everything is taken away from you, hold your breath a bit and let go. you don't own anything in the first place. you MAKE them.
whether things do get any better or not, that has little to do with you. you were once a factor, now a smaller factor--still, only a factor.
If you really worth the attention, you'll get it! Not because you desperately want that attention.
I tell you this: we deserve the things we allow happen to us. we deserve the friends who treat us like crap when we let them do it.
but frankly, and this is what I believe in, to find a place where you can stay for a long time is hard as hell. seriously.
in fact, it's so hard to find a place like that we often deceive ourselves that some other places are where we belong, even if we don't.
appearing and disappearing are both normal, common things that happen in life. realize, accept, and understand it. you'll be fine.
or at last, time will someday heal..
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